If you have decided on giving up alcohol, for either a short while or forever, you may need to look at changing your behavior. You should also look at how you respond to some situations. In this post, I will share with you some of my own experiences.
What Other People Say or Think
I think this can be a big one. Peer pressure was definitely only of the biggest reasons I drank. In many work and social situations, it was both expected that I would drink and I felt it was wrong not to.
It was only when I had changed whom I was hanging around with that I felt much more relaxed and the people I was with would not be bothered about what I did or did not drink. That was indeed the case after I had announced I no longer drank. There was one moment when I was slightly tested but after that, they accepted it and fell into my new pattern.
Now when I go out with new people or people who don’t know that I no longer drink, some find it incredible, some find it good, others do not even notice.
The key is to reach a point where you are not bothered about what others think if you do or do not drink. In fact yesterday, one of my friends himself had not drank anything since the New Year, which is great. We both also ordered non-alcoholic drinks (mocktails) – the cocktails the bar had specially made for us without alcohol.
There are now many choices on the menu or you can ask them to be made for you. Non-alcoholic drinks are also significantly cheaper than the alcoholic cocktails.
The essence is after a while you will probably be asked about it so many times that you will feel more comfortable with it. It may feel harder at the start but you can find a reason why you are giving up for now. Otherwise, it may be that you need to hang out with new people if your current peer and social group can’t accept you no longer drinking.
Positive Thinking towards Quitting Drinking
Now when I see people acting drunk or I see the effects of alcohol on them, such as wine making their lips and teeth red or their eyes bloodshot, I know I am making the right decision. Using positive thinking, I say “I will not be like them.”
I feel clear and enjoy drinking the extra water and healthier drinks to keep me hydrated. I also do not need to rely on alcohol to help me feel good or excited. Some people still can’t understand that but it is your responsibility to get there.
You will really start to understand the differences in you from drinking or not drinking, and will feel happier for this. The fact is the effects of alcohol are no longer causing your body harm and stress and forcing it to deal with the toxins. In addition, you will be much more in control of yourself and your responses.
You will also be very happy that you have actually made a huge change in your life that will give you confidence that you can keep from drinking, and that you can make other changes in your life.
One interesting thing I have been learning from psychology is that often your behaviors can determine your beliefs, not the other way around. If you stop drinking, you may take on new beliefs consistent with this behavior. This may happen automatically and will only help you to continue refraining from drink.
A Change in Your Lifestyle
With a little bit of luck, you will start to focus more on your health. I remember a photograph of one of the clients of my How to Give up Alcohol Course sent me a year or more after he had stopped drinking alcohol. It was incredible. Comparing this photo to one he had sent me for use on the website it was as if I was looking at two different people.
He had started training and eating a lot more healthily. This is something you will most likely start to do also. You will have less time in dealing with the after-effects of alcohol such as headaches and hangovers and more time to do more exercise, take walks in nature etc. In addition, you may start to change some of your habits, one of the key things to getting different results in your life.
I read a book about habits recently, which stated that changing certain key habits could have a major knock-on effect on your life. If the habit you choose to deal with is to stop drinking, then the knock-on effects can be to start changing your relationship with your health, diet and exercise amongst others.
Some of the changes you experience after stopping drinking may be completely unplanned and unconscious. Others though might need some planning and thinking about until they are planned and automatic. The only real way for you to know is to make a start by giving up alcohol for a while or forever. (Be sure to consult with your medical practitioner before going ‘cold turkey’ or giving up suddenly).
Learn how to control your drinking in the privacy of your own home without going to AA or expensive counseling with the How to Give up Alcohol Course.