It is possible to manage and stop an alcohol problem with the poser of thought, using choice, change, and responsibility. The disease concept of addiction is about as misunderstood as the government these days, and “treatment” for this “disease” hasn’t changed much over the past 60 years.
If addiction were truly a disease, there would be a solution for it that would decrease substance use, rather than the steady climb of people abusing alcohol each year. This is because treatment programs are simply looking at addiction wrong. Addiction is a habitual behavior that can be changed through better choices, positive thinking and self-change.
You have little control over some life situations such as natural disasters or the death of a loved one. You do have control over how you react to those situations. In some instances, you may have turned to alcohol for this control. You have a tremendous amount of control over what you learn from past situations and how you proceed with your life. You know not to repeat past, unwanted patterns and choices such as drinking when you’re stressed or when a tragedy occurs. Knowing you cannot control every situation will help you choose a better option for yourself with confidence rather than believing that you are a victim of circumstance.
Understanding Choice and Change
It is essential you understand that you are the master of all the choices you have made in life and those you will make in the future. Those who believe they are victims of circumstance choose to remain in an immature state and continue to struggle with alcohol use. The word “immature” may conjure up many negative visions of temper tantrums and other poor behavior and may feel like an insult to you or does not apply to you. However, immaturity can also mean that you are remaining in an “unchanged” state, such as partying all night or drinking instead of tackling your problems head on.
Unfortunately, although many people dislike change, change is the only constant thing in our lives. Change is an inescapable fact. When an individual decides not to adapt to the changes around them, they are attempting to side step the unavoidable. This will only end in frustration and continuous stress. Adapting to life’s struggles and challenges are obvious marks of maturing and can help you avoid future problems with alcohol.
Taking Responsibility and Changing the Perception of Yourself
You may wonder if you have everything going for you and why some areas of your life are still lagging.
- Do you ever feel “lost” or “stuck?” Maybe you feel like you have no purpose, even though areas of your life such as your career and relationships are successful.
- Do you drink because you have held onto resentments from childhood?
- Do you have intimate relationships that are unfulfilling and feel a sense of hopelessness?
You can change these typical problems by having a positive perception of yourself and changing your thoughts, in other words through positive thinking. You may feel like you have been stuck in a negative mind frame that is hard to change, however you can adjust your power of thought, which will help you think differently.
Many people use their lack of happiness as an excuse to continue to drink. To them, drinking alcohol provides a low level of satisfaction, which is better than none at all. Once the quick fix of an alcohol buzz wears off, you are back to reality, thus creating the need for more and more alcohol. If you are one of these people, it might be time to reflect on why you haven’t made the necessary changes in your life to stop this destructive roller coaster. What is holding you back? Why have you avoided making necessary changes in your life? What do you spend time thinking about? Why are you unhappy and discontented? Have your attempted to fix these problems?
The cause of most unhappiness is really quite simple. It stems from an unwillingness to accept responsibility for your own thoughts, choices and actions. This means that to create self-change, you will have to face and overcome challenges in life which may seem difficult to you right now, but will bring you a more satisfying future once you defeat them.
By understanding your thoughts, you can use that knowledge to become a more productive and positive person by being proactive rather than by being negative and reactive to situations. By becoming aware of your thoughts and your perception of the world around you, you will be able to shape the outcome of your future, rather than believe alcohol will solve your problems for you. Once you become a more positive person, you will be much more open to positive outcomes.
Positive Thinking Equals Positive Results
By embracing change and thinking about your current circumstances in a more positive light, you can begin the process of creating your new life. Become a problem solver, quick thinker and courageous person and you will see better outcomes in your life.
Remember, alcohol use is simply a short-term phase in your life and a “quick fix” for problems. It won’t happen overnight but the more you analyze why you react to certain situations or why you have negative feelings towards others the sooner it will be. Jot down these feelings as you have them and then write a better way you could have handled each situation. You will start to see a pattern develop, which will help you better understand your behaviors.
Thousands of people outgrow alcohol problems every day, making alcohol use a behavior of the past. You can change yours too. The true solution to alcohol addiction isn’t pills, therapy, group meetings or rehab, it’s the process you take to evaluate your life and make better choices. This change can only come from you. It is better to be honest with yourself as this is the first part of changing your life and making progress. Once you realize the true potential of the power of your thoughts will be amazed at what your mind can overcome and achieve.
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